So, for some reason, your relationship didn’t work out. It’s probably a shocker or you saw the signs. Either way, it still leaves a bruise. Hang on, who am I kidding? It’s a brutal stab wound and blood, your blood is spewing on the floor. Your heart is in your hands and you can barely see clearly with all that misty stuff in your eyes.
I get it. We get it. Love sucks when it goes down the drain. That doesn’t mean you have to go down with it. You’re probably thinking, “Well, how am I going to get through this? I see no end. I can’t pull myself together.” If there’s something certain in this life, it’s everything is temporary – nothing lasts forever. The same goes for the hurt you’re feeling right now.
Read on to find out how you can pull yourself out of the rut.
Allow Yourself to Grieve
Just to start with the good news, it will get better. But before it does, you’ll have to roll in the mud for a while. That means cry if you want to, and you should. Hold nothing back. That way you get rid of all the baggage of losing a piece of yourself – which you will get back.
During this time, you’re not allowed to make any major life decisions. Let’s just say you might end up regretting most of them. We’re all different. It might take 2 weeks, 3 months, or even an entire year to fully come to terms with the reality of a breakup. Give yourself time.
Don’t Stay Friends
As tempting as it may be, as good as it sounds, you would only be exposing yourself to be more hurt than you already are. Just because it didn’t work as lovers doesn’t mean you should downgrade to friends. Cutting all ties is the surest way to go if you want to heal quickly and move on. This means unfriending them on social media, not going to the same coffee shop they go to, and getting rid of anything that reminds you of them.
Get Your Tribe Support
Being alone through the breakup is a no-no. Support is needed in difficult times. A little squad help doesn’t hurt anybody. Just know that during this time you’ll feel very lonely. Staying in touch with caring family members and friends will help see you through. Whether it’s a shopping spree with the girls or a movie night with kids, spend time with the ones that have your back.
Exercise, Eat Healthy and Rest
Eat healthy meals. Eat regularly. Try not to snack on junk food too often. You don’t have to go gladiator-mode on working out, anything from taking an evening walk to yoga will do just fine. Exercising will stimulate your brain to release endorphins that make you feel good, and that’s what you need. Restrain from burying yourself in work. Get as much rest as you can.
Do Something New
Learn something you’ve always wanted to add to your skillset. Go camping. Sign up for Salsa. Take a beginner’s course in Portuguese. You’ve got a lot of free energy, so your goal is to refocus all that on doing things that make you happy and feel good about life. Your skills will improve and so will your confidence, and you’ll be ready again to take on the world.
So are you in the middle of a breakup right now? You’re probably wallowing in self-pity, but does it have to be that way? Absolutely not! Get up and put the above practices into effect in your life and notice the speed at which you progress to the next phase of life.